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STORY: Why Men Seek Women who will Enjoy and Embrace the Cuckold Lifestyle

Let Me Explain Why Men Seek Women Who Embrace The Cuckold Lifestyle... Different men will want to consider a wide variety o...

August 13, 2012

STORY: Why Men Seek Women who will Enjoy and Embrace the Cuckold Lifestyle

Let Me Explain Why Men Seek Women Who Embrace The Cuckold Lifestyle...

Different men will want to consider a wide variety of aspects when seeking a cuckoldress bride.  The variance that each couple develops are aspects of the Cuckold Lifestyle that each couple adopts, becoming the terms of their marriage. For this man, the most important aspect is I want to see my wife sexually stimulated, excited to be the object of other men's sexual desires and feeling free to fuck whoever she chooses, with my approval, encouragement, assistance and/or participation.

AS far back as when I was in high school, I began noticing that instead of being what most would consider a normal guy, getting jealous when my girlfriends cheated on me, I would get more aroused by their indiscretions than anything else they had ever done.  I remember discovering one of my more slutty high school girlfriends having sex with a guy in an upstairs bedroom at a house party... After the guy took off, quickly, my girlfriend was laying on the bed trying to cover her bottom half up.

I shut the door to the room, went to her and started kissing her. I could tell she had sucked his cock, but did not care... Then, after pulling my jeans down, I inserted my almost painfully erect cock into her and could tell that her pussy was filled with the other guy's semen. It was my first experience with "sloppy seconds" and I loved it... I remember all the squishy, sloppy sounds that we made while I drove the biggest hard-on of my life in and out of her sloshing, cum filled pussy.

It wasn't long before I felt the most intense orgasm of my life, filling my sweetheart with even more cum, but this time it was mine... My girlfriend could obviously tell how much I got off on having sex with her after she had cheated on me, and this set the stage for many similar situations in the future. I wish I knew a young lady like her today...
When we look at the typical man in our culture today, what do we find? For example, when his wife considers fucking other men, he becomes a very jealous man. Let's rethink this for a moment; if a man is the type easily prone to extreme jealousy, it is because he strives to own the woman. This is the type of man that considers his wife or girlfriend to be one of his assets, a form of property, or chattel and should not be taken or used for pleasure by any other men.

Because she is "His Wife", no other man is allowed to enjoy her body. This is similar to owning domestic farm animals, livestock or even household pets. In my opinion, this has led to an excessive divorce rate, dissatisfaction with marriage and has not worked out to be a desirable position for either the man or the woman in most marriages.
Consider the following scenario; a man (friend or stranger) walks up to you, or your wife and tells you/her that he thinks you/she are gorgeous, and so hot he cannot resist.  Or, he just starts flirting with the woman (you or your wife) in some other way.  American cultural norms will pressure the husband to either act, or become jealous, or in some other way try to squelch his approach and do what some would call a "Cock Block" on the approaching male.
Sadly, in our society, too many wives expect this interference any time a man compliments them or says things to them that makes them feel good about themselves WHENEVER THEY GET MALE ATTENTION IN THE PRESENCE OF THEIR HUSBAND.

For me and many other Cuckold Men, not all types of jealousy are completely absent, but sexual jealousy has somehow been transformed into being happy for our wives that she is being complimented, made the center of attention.

We are thrilled to know she is becoming aroused when we see her nipples get hard, and we know her pussy is getting wet because an attractive male has found her desirable enough to approach in an attempt to seduce her, to mate with her... That's when I am happy for her! 

I know that when men flirt with her in an attempt to seek sex with her, that it makes her feel vital and alive.  She gets confirmation that she is so desirable, appearing fertile and sexy in a way that attracts complete strangers, or even men that she knows or works with.

The fact that she is so irresistible as to cause a man to take the risk involved in approaching a married woman is yet an even greater boost to her self esteem... And dammit, everyone wants to be desirable and be reminded of it often! If you are a man, how did it feel the last time you realized a woman was hitting on you?
It felt GREAT, and you know it! 
If you really love any woman, why would you deny them this great pleasure, especially knowing that for most women it is probably a more intense feeling of joy and fulfillment than it is for men.

For myself and many other men who call themselves "Cuckold" we have realized that our Testosterone fueled need to control women as if they are collateral property is simply rubbish! Our deep love for the women we worship, AND WHO WE REMAIN EXCLUSIVELY FAITHFUL TO, fuels a desire within each of us to see our wives receive sexual pleasure beyond what any single man can provide.
Without seeking any type of reciprocity, we bestow the sexual freedom and license upon our wives to respond to any man they choose in a friendly fashion, and if they feel their sexual instincts are signaling them to do so, to respond to sexual advances from desirable men in a positive manner.

Of course, as their husbands, we must remain vigilant and on guard to protect their safety from harm and ensure they have no reason to fear taking on another lover.  

For myself and many other Cuckold men, there is a feeling of liberation and exhilaration that comes from seeing our wives become so sexually free that other men want them.  I sometimes describe this as similar to the feeling I got when my daughter's boyfriend asked to meet with me, alone, and then asked my permission to propose marriage to my daughter.

I was so filled with joy that this young girl that I loved so much had captured the heart of what was obviously a nervous young man, to such a degree that he would suffer the humiliation of submitting himself to her father. When he trembled and in a shaky voice ask for my permission to ask my daughter to marry him, I fought back tears of joy.

Whenever I have seen any man obviously find one of my previous girlfriends or wives attractive, it always served to excite me and arouse me to such a degree that anger was the furthest away of any emotion elicited. 

Too many American women are taught by our culture, the schools, magazines, books, TV and movies to think that their boyfriends or husbands should be jealous when other men treat them TOO NICE in their presence, as proof that the man truly is in love with them.

Which explains why my girlfriends would break up with me after trying to make me jealous by flirting with other guys, only to find me encouraging them to find out if he was a good fuck. 
This sort of learned patterns are NOT NATURAL, it comes from watching TV and motion pictures.  It is an unfortunate part of American culture and it promotes that "ownership" mentality that leads to all sorts of negative consequences, such as domestic violence.

A married man and woman should feel like they are partners in life, not that they are livestock!  Jealousy is not honorable nor a healthy emotion, and it proves nothing as far as genuine and sincere love is concerned. Sacrificing one's own needs to allow your partner to experience joy and pleasure, along with the trust letting your wife fuck other men requires are actually more of indicative of true love than treating her like a cow that the neighbor stole milk from!

I have been married three times, each of my wives were beautiful and I always considered it to be a compliment and an exciting development when other men became interested in any of my three beautiful wives.  In my opinion, when men flirt with my wife, or try to seduce her, this means that he's attracted to her. He doesn't want to harm the woman I love, he probably likes her a lot and would like to have sex with her... as he should!
Many men can relate to wanting other men to like their wives in a socially friendly way, but for me, and many Cuckold men, the opportunity for our wives to have sex with such a man is also a way to express his feelings toward her even greater... Especially if we get to watch!

Heck, I just want my wife to get laid by as many desirable men as possible in whatever way happens to work itself out.  As a Cuckold, we want to be a part of helping our wives achieve stimulation, joy, sexual satisfaction and the sheer vitality a woman feels when she is getting fucked and feels the man pumping his life giving sperm into her womb! 

It's also something we can enjoy in common with our wives... kind of like helping your best friend experience the joy of winning a sports championship, except in this case it is the biological DNA embedded drive to get fucked by as many men as possible and enjoy the love life that has many participants.

Cuckold Lifestyle is about men letting their wives be as desirable as they possibly can be, and then fulfill the object of being desirable to the opposite sex!  A Cuckold wants his wife to enjoy opening up her mind and her vagina to attention from other men and for her to really enjoy the feelings of desirability and the orgasms from getting fucked really good.

In many case, it was me that encouraged a man to initiate his seduction of my wife, and most of the time my wife was so flattered and thrilled by his attention that i would become aroused in return and beg and plead that she fuck him like a female banshee in heat!

The sheer joy that comes from seeing your wife's pussy creaming all over a bigger cock than your own while she spasms in orgasmic convulsions is truly inspiring.  Enough so to make a good Cuckold Husband want to seek out additional studs to please his beautiful wife by fucking her better than the cuckold could ever delude himself to be capable of.  

If you are a woman who has never experienced the exhilaration of being married to a man that allows your inner cock hungry cum-slut to emerge, the joy of letting your pussy feed on multiple cocks, then you have never felt the most intensely feminine joy nature intended you to experience.

So go out there and meet a Cuckold man, go out on dates with him, then find out what you are missing; because it may be the key to a lifetime of happiness that most other men and women never get to experience!

July 10, 2012

STORY: My Desire To Meet A Cuckoldress

Burning Desire to Marry a True Cuckold Lifestyle FemDom Drives My Life!

It has been awhile since I updated this blog, so I wanted to create another post that expresses my desires to meet a woman that will take me as her property, love me, sexually exploit me and use my sex addiction to manage my financial productivity as her loyal, monogamous cuckold husband.

I have met several women around the country who have responded to my searches and queries seeking my bride, but to date I have yet to find a woman who connects with me on a "chemistry" level, thus stimulating my intense desire to be the cuckold husband supporting and worshiping a wife who has a very active sex life with many other men (bisexual women would also be fine).  

Of course, despite my dominant, prominent and successful role as an accomplished professional, a leader in my vanilla world of business, the right woman for me will control  my sexuality, keep me subservient to her sexual aggressiveness and need to fuck many men. My ideal bride will manipulate me into fluffing her lovers by sucking their cocks, licking their balls and stroking them to full engorgement, then assisting their penetration of my wife's vagina and anus by guiding their large, engorged cocks into her openings... 

I will hold my wife's legs, massage her shoulders and otherwise assist her in getting the most pleasure from her frequent fuck sessions with her many lovers.  

I will serve refreshments, provide clean linens and suck the sperm from her pussy and ass to make her ready for more sex.  

She will at times humiliate me by calling me her "faggot cock sucking husband" with a dick too small to be felt in her stretched and BBC conditioned huge vagina, now only satisfied by men with cocks at least twice as big as mine.  

To keep me under control, my wife will milk me on a daily basis, only letting me achieve orgasm when a cock (real or dildo) is in my ass or mouth... Thus conditioning me to accept submissive gay sex as the only way i can achieve orgasm... 

My wife will enjoy and take great pride in forcing me to become her bisexual cuckold husband who needs to be fucked in the ass or mouth in order to achieve orgasm as a result of her conditioning and training. 

Ultimately, when my future FemDom wife determines the time and opportunity is right, she will pimp me to aggressive black gay tops who will pay well to fuck a straight white husband who is an anal newbie to anything other than dildos, fingers and props used to train me.

Since I am currently on Testosterone stimulating medication and estrogen suppressants, my testicles are producing more sperm than when I was 18, and I must be milked at least once a day, preferably twice, to relieve the build up of semen in my prostate. 

My bride will use electro-stim to milk me while speaking to me about my role and her plans...

She will train me to seek, find and recruit the exact types of lovers she wants for her own sexual enjoyment, as a condition of keeping me properly drained of sperm on a daily basis.

I believe the right woman to take ownership of me, my assets and income stream is a younger lady who can melt me with her attractiveness, and sexuality...

She will keep me as her older cuckold husband and personal property until I pass away, at which time she will inherit my estate and receive my life insurance benefits. She will use her new wealth to further satisfy her desires by developing her stable of men, both well hung bulls and cuckold submissives who surrender to her control..

I know this all sounds very far fetched to any woman reading this, but I am absolutely sincere, have been married to an insatiable slut and a dominant cuckoldress in the past and know that this is the lifestyle I need in order to be happy.

Nothing brings me such bliss as my bride lowering her gaping freshly fucked pussy down onto my mouth and then tells me about the exciting, handsome and virile men who fucked her and pumped the semen into her that I am sucking and swallowing while also licking her erect and swollen clit to another orgasm for her...

Because when you cum like that, more of the semen pumped into you by your lovers will push out into my mouth and feed your hungry cuckold husband.

You can email me at LasVegasCuckold@gmail.com or follow and message me on Twitter @VegasCuckold and if you are curious enough to discuss what you are seeking in a husband, and perhaps then meet.  I can travel anywhere in the Western Hemisphere, and am especially attracted to dark women, Latina, Black, mixed, Asian and can see the beauty in almost any woman I meet, whether the chemistry is right or not.

The following images with captions are what I have collected, and created to illustrate and put a picture together of the lifestyle and woman I seek to be my wife, and my owner:

(wife speaking) That's it my dear loving cuck husband... Suck and swallow the sperm from the 3 big black cocks I fucked and drained tonight... Swallow baby, you must swallow so it does not over flow your mouth... That's it baby, suck with a steady rhythm... Some of that sperm was pumped into me 12 inches deep and with a lot of squirting pressure... Yes, baby, suck it back out through my cervix so you can be my special birth control method....

If you don't get all the sperm out, you will be financially responsible for the black baby I will deliver as your lawfully wedded wife.... Mmmm yes, my dear, keep that suction and tongue probing rhythm... Make me have an orgasm so my vaginal muscles spasm and push more of the semen into your hungry faggot mouth...

Yes, my dear... You will soon be my own specially trained and fully faggotized submissive bottom husband, and then we will both get fucked by big black cocks together!  You are going to love having this much semen pumped into your anus.... It feels so good babe...

Wait to you feel the first time a cock throbs inside your man-pussy and squirts streams of hot semen into your body over and over... You will learn to be like your wife and crave that feeling of a throbbing cock shooting thick semen from a black man's huge balls....

That's my baby, you are so special to me.  Would you like to be swallowing sperm fed to you from my gaping pussy while you get ass fucked by a big black cock?

ABOVE IMAGE: I so very much love it when you slowly stroke your cuckold husbands penis, and tell me all about the men you fucked, the cocks you sucked, the sperm you have consumed... I can smell the cock and cum on your breath as you tell me about your fuck session to get the weed...

Then you passionately kiss me, push the remnants of semen into my mouth with your tongue as you yank my load of sperm out of my swollen balls...

It is all part of your conditioning me to associate the taste of other men's sperm with my own orgasm... You are preparing me to be turned out!

I would be so fulfilled if you marry me and have me lick your clit while you fuck big cocks... I have done this for my first two wives and they loved it.  My first wife loved to take a huge black cock in her pussy and then hold my head down there while I licked and sucked her clit... Sometimes she would have me lick her boyfriend's cock as it went in and out of her to add some of my saliva as lubricant...

Then, after her studs would shoot their powerful hot streams of sperm inside of her, I would clamp my lips over her pussy right as their siftening cock pulled out and she would grip my head hard and tell me to swallow her man's sperm, to fill my belly with his thick white semen... and to get used to the taste and texture, because I was going to be swallowing a lot of it...

I loved her so very much.  She left me for a black man who had a 11" cock and was ultra dominant, giving her the rough sex she truly needed.  I still love her, and I miss servicing her and her lovers.

IMAGE TO THE RIGHT: Mmmmm yes my lovely bride... I so love worshiping your gaped, well fucked vagina when you come home filled with your lover's semen... Feed your husband, my love... He craves the seed of the men who pump so much sperm into your beautiful body.  How many men did you conquer, seduce and drain tonight my love?

Sometimes you humiliate me so much it is delicious... I know you love me, but when you are in your sexual zone, I become your sexual play thing for amusement and your pleasure... So humiliating to suck that fresh load of semen out of your stretched vagina as your lover's brother is grunting and fucking my ass....

As I swallow the huge volume of semen in your pussy, I feel the brother pumping incredibly strong jets of this semen up my ass... I am being filled with BBC sperm from both ends at the hands of the wife i love...      
After our first year of marriage, you have conditioned me to achieve an orgasm from being fucked by you and your lovers, without anyone touching my cock...

You have turned me into your own ass-fuck slut and on special occasions bring home certain men who enjoy fucking white middle aged executives in the ass, while you kiss me, tell me how proud you are of letting my man pussy get so large, stretched and gaped...

You reach under with your hand, kiss me shoving your tongue into my throat and forcefully pull my cock so I erupt squirting several feet of sperm as your stud buries his cock balls deep into my ass, howling, gripping my ass cheeks as he pumps an enormous quantity of BBC sperm deep inside my bowels.

As I collapse, with thick white semen oozing out of my gaping man-pussy, you caress my cheeks and tell me how proud you are of creating such a well trained ass-slut for BBC.

I smile, until I hear you say:
"OK, send Jamal in, he gets to fill hubby's gaping ass with that giant freak cock of his..." You whisper in my ear "This is your biggest test yet, my love... You are about to be fucked by the biggest black cock I have ever seen, and he is not going to be gentle with you my dear, so here, take these pills, they will dull the pain as he rapes your ass, pretending you are the cop that sent him to prison, because you resemble him... " 

You try to console me saying "Think of all the good you will be doing by taking his aggression and saving some poor white twink who has not had his ass properly gaped and lubed with all the sperm you have in your ass right now... I will be holding you down my dear faggot hubby, so just relax and accept your man-rape..."

You continue whispering in my ear as you squeeze my balls, working them to produce more sperm; "You will be a very different man when he finishes violently fucking you like a rag doll with a well lubricated hole.  I promise to care for you during your recovery and to milk the sperm from your balls every 4 hours after you take this brutal ass-fucking assault.  Look at it this way, if you ever go to prison, you'll know what to expect... 

"I love you baby, this is for your own good... I want to strip away what's left of your manhood... So stop struggling, this is why I have you tied down... It's inevitable, relax, don't fight it." -- My Wife  

You then flip me over on my back, my legs are pulled back and trussed, exposing my gaping cum filled ass... Then you squat down on my face, forcing me to suck your gaping, sperm filled vagina, so my screams will be muffled as Jamal lines up his enormous black, rock hard penis, with a head the size of a peach, as he says:

"OK you white faggot cop mother fucker, this is for putting me behind bars on bullshit rape charges... I'm going to fuck you so hard, you gonna feel my cock head in your throat... Hold him down boys, he's gone start flopping around like a fucking crazy man as soon as I impale him on this righteous 13" of man meat..." -- Jamal  

When the assault has been going for about 20 minutes, I feel his cock head swell up in my gut and then a sensation like a fire-hose has been inserted in my ass as he ejaculates because he generates so much sperm shooting so hard into my belly that I pass out.

My wife takes care of me, soothes me and nurses me back to health during the next few days because it is 3 days before I can walk...

My ass is permanently stretched and when I bend over it is always gaped open about the size of a half dollar... After that, you start to take great pride in bragging to black studs with huge cocks that your husband can take a full on hammer fuck in the ass...

You bring them home and every time you make me fuck one of them, my cock erupts without being touched because I have become addicted to getting ass fucked...

You love your cuckold husband and still feed me sperm from your pussy, especially enjoying what it is like to cum on my face as you watch a huge black cock pistoning in and out of your husband's ass... The sight makes you cum extra hard on my face...
Swallowing the semen out of your now huge gaping pussy, while a big cock massages my prostate makes me squirt my jets of semen about 3 feet in the air, several times... every time!

February 12, 2012

STORY: Science Shows Cuckolding to be Natural and Healthy

The Science of Cuckoldry

By Sex Therapist and Relationships Counselor Susan Gower

After studying human sexuality for many years it has become inarguable to me that a cuckold relationship (in which the wife engages in sexual activity with a variety of men while her husband remains faithful) is most compatible with basic human evolutionary make up. It is straying from this evolutionarily grounded human bonding relationship that has produced such misunderstandings and conflict between the sexes.

At the very base of this principle is the understanding of a woman’s psychological need for a variety of sex partner’s. Psychologically, women are hardwired differently than men. A woman has a dual sex drive. The first is centered on finding a mate for life to help support her and her offspring. This is why (and when) love is such an important part of a women’s sexual desire. The second is a desire to obtain a variety of the best genetic material to produce the best children. This second desire begins to grow once a woman has found her life mate and grows stronger as time with him progresses. 

Eventually, this later and more powerful drive overpowers her sexual desire for her life mate. This is why a woman’s sexual desire for her husband diminishes over time. At the same time her sexual desire for other men is increasing. Often this desire for other men becomes so strong she cannot deny it. This does not make her immoral or mean that she no longer loves her husband. It is simply part of her genetic code.

Physiological sexual differences between men and women also support the cuckold relationship as the ideal for marriage. It is well known that women don’t reach her sexual peak until they are in their thirties, while men peak by the time they are twenty. In a typical marriage, a wife is generally younger than her husband or the same age. As a result, a woman’s increasing sexual appetite, do to her biologically age based sex drive, gives her greater sexual needs than her husband. She needs more sexual encounters, longer sexual encounters and more orgasms than her spouse. Her older or same age husband, on the other hand, wants sex far less than his wife, oftentimes lasts only a few minutes before he reaches orgasm and then, no longer interested in sex, leaves his wife unsatisfied and frustrated. As a marriage continues this discrepancy in sexual needs increases dramatically, usually to the breaking point of a wife secretly finding a lover or lovers outside the marriage.
Compounding this is that nature has not only given women a two prong and exponentially stronger sex drive than men, it has also given women the ability to experience a far greater quantity, intensity, and variety of sexual pleasure and orgasm than men. This is nature’s way of motivating a woman to seek out sexual activity considering the risk she bears in doing so. (Even though today’s contraceptives greatly reduce these risks, they do nothing to diminish the internal triggers that drive a woman’s need for a variety of sex and sex partners. If anything, this reduction of risk intensifies her drive to seek pleasure.)

As a result, women can experience a wide range and intensity of sexual pleasure and diversity of orgasm. Besides the pleasure and orgasms derived from manual, oral and coital stimulation of a woman’s clitoris, all three of which feel distinctly different, a woman can reach a completely different sensation of pleasure and a completely different orgasm from the stimulation of her g-spot by a well endowed man. A woman can even reach orgasm by proper stimulation of her nipples if she has been brought to a state of intense clitoral arousal. Stimulation of her nipples and clitoris at the same time will give her a yet another unique intense orgasm. Her ultimate height of pleasure is found in oral or manual titillation of her clitoris while simultaneously having her g-spot stimulated. 
It is interesting that this is best accomplished by the use of multiple sexual partners, suggesting nature’s preference for male, female, male couplings. Finally, the crowning pinnacle of a woman’s sexual superiority is her ability to have a multiple orgasm and full body orgasmic experiences.
Men, on the other hand, are far simpler sexually. Stimulate their glans (the little patch of skin at the front of the penis just below it’s head) and they ejaculate. Furthermore, men can get nearly the same level of satisfaction from masturbating as the do completing a sex act with a woman. For women, masturbation will give them only temporary relief. Women need to have sex with a partner to be fully satisfied, especially psychologically.
The male also has a much simpler sex drive than a woman. He simply wants to mate with any female he finds desirable. The longer he is denied sex, the stronger his desire grows and the criterion by which he finds a woman desirable lowers. Since it is the woman who decides if he will be allowed to have sex with her or not, his desire for her sexually is also linked to the desire for her approval. As he becomes more interested in her the desire to please her as a way to get sex can become overwhelming for him. That is why you will often see men acting foolishly in front of females they desire, even though they have no chance to have sex with them. That is also why, once married, a man will begin to take his wife for granted; now that he has easy availability of sex from her, she becomes less desirable to him.
One might think that this is a good argument for having an open marriage in which both a wife and her husband find sexual partners outside their marriage. Interviews with couples in open marriages have shown that these marriages almost always lead to a competition between the two spouses regarding who is having more sex with more partners. A wife will always win this competition because it is much easier for a woman to find sexual partners than it is for a man. The competition, however, can become nasty, ugly and often cruel. A wife will sometimes be drawn into the competition so deeply she will have sex with far more men than she wishes too, and her husband will have growing feelings of inadequacy, as he cannot keep up with his wife. This kind of competition almost always destroys a marriage.
Furthermore, the idea of open marriage assumes the erroneous notion that men need a variety of sex partners. While all evidence indicates that a married woman both physiologically and psychologically does need a variety of sexual partners, a married man does not. The genetic code that drives a man is the thrill of pursuit, not the need for variety. Husbands in clinical studies who’s desire for their wives have waned and who’s interest have turned to other women have been completely turned around when their wives begin using arousal and denial techniques on them. These techniques instill uncertainty in the husband as to whether he will be allowed to complete a sex act with her or not. Time after time, in study after study, these husband’s desires have been focused back to their wives exclusively, losing all interest in other women. The wives in these studies were even able to vary their husband’s level of interest through increasing or decreasing their application of arousal and denial techniques. It was further found that when these same wives reverted back to traditional sexual practices with their husbands, their husbands began to loose interest again and began to again look at other women as possible sex partners.
Interestingly, it was during the sexually repressive Victorian Era that an unusual mix of cuckoldry and the sexual arousal and denial of males was employed. It was believed at that time that many ills were caused by excessive male ejaculations. They believed that loss of sperm contributed to a whole host of maladies, from asthma to mental illness. As a result, chastity devices were often prescribed for men. This practice was so prevalent that over two hundred patents for male chastity devices were applied for during this era... Conversely, at this same time, it was believed that women suffered hysteria from lack of sexual release. Orgasmic therapy was prescribed for the treatment and prevention of female hysteria. Women would visit their doctor, or the doctor would come to a woman’s home to manually, or in secret, by more intimate means, deliver her orgasms. Most often it was married women who requested this therapy, often as much as three times a week. Some doctor’s journals noted that the demand became so great that they had to delegate these visits to their interns.

A structured practice of female sexual satisfaction and male denial grew quickly. Women had a lot of leisure time and spread the word of the benefits of orgasmic therapy and spousal chastity through the popular women’s societies prevalent at the time. Since men could not be trusted to have self-discipline, their wives were usually given the keys to their chastity devices. A kind of secret society developed in which these wives called themselves Key Holders. Key holding wives would deny their husbands sex while they enjoyed the services of their physicians and their physician’s interns or secretly engaged in sex with other men. Within these women’s clubs women introduced other wives who were unsatisfied with their husbands, to recommend chastity for their husbands and treatment for hysteria for themselves. Doctor’s finding a man’s wife desirable would also prescribe the same in order to gain access to her.
Some woman’s journals discovered from this time period tell of their exploits with doctors, interns and other available men. The jest of the mailman and milkman delivering more than mail and milk are very well rooted in fact. It is interesting that a whole society developed around wives having sex with other men while denying their husbands who had to remain faithful to them. It is not uncommon to find entries in a wife’s journal such as: 
“I had a wondrous day today. After a most satisfying visit, for both myself and Doctor Elbridge’s young intern, I spent a delightfully entertaining evening raising my poor husband’s lustiness near to its pinnacle during this time that he must abstain from loosing semen. His antics were most amusing and raised my own lust. As always, he proved his devotion to me by pleasuring me in a most deliciously French way.( Mine will be the most scrumptiously naughty story of any lady tomorrow at tea)"
Another journal tells how excited one wife was that she had her husband doing housework, an unheard of practice at a time when male and female roles were so rigid, illustrating again how arousal and denial of sex can totally alter a man’s behavior. Other journal entries tell of the rise in attention from their husbands and the thrill of sneaking around behind their husband’s back and having sex while their husband was “locked in his cage.”
While diagnosing the damage done to women by denying them the fulfillment of their sexual needs may have been falsely labeled hysteria, the doctors of Victorian times were startlingly near the mark. Victorian doctors had insightfully identified the need women had for sex with a variety of men.

Unsurprisingly, since human societal structures were originally matriarchal, societies that still live today in ways closer to our original female and male roles do not suffer from the damages of psychological and physiological stress. These more basic societies, far from the modern world, are nearly always matriarchal. It is the women in these societies who control property, family affairs and sexual activity. These women will usually have multiple husbands and lovers. One or two of these men provide them with food, shelter and security, while the others provide them with sex. Male, female, male couplings are not only accepted, but quite normal. I
In some societies, certain “stud” males will exclusively service a wife, in others, wives will share, exchange and even trade stud males. Men in these societies are happy in their subordinate roles to women. While there are some incidents of jealousy, there is no violence, crime, or sexual perversion. Men are focused on pleasing their wives instead of impressing other women in the group or competing with other men, except in the area of being good sex providers. Wives will keep this competition light and fun and ongoing. Men focused on this kind of competition do not compete with each other in other ways either, leading to much stronger male/male friendships and cooperation.

An unlikely place further confirmation of the appropriateness of cuckolding in human bonding relationships was discovered in the findings of primate studies. In one study, researchers found two anatomical influences of fidelity in primates. One was the physical size difference between the sexes. The other was the male’s ratio of penis size to body mass.
It was found that in those species of primates where the female was considerably larger than the male, the female would have many sexual partners and bond with none. As female/male size became closer, the female would bond with one male. This male would remain faithful to her, but she would continue to have sex with non-bonded males. It was found that this was not reversed until the male became extremely larger than the female.

The second influencer the researchers discovered was the ratio of penis size to body mass. In species where the difference in physical size between the sexes was slight, (as it is in humans) the penis to body size ratio increased female dominated sexual behavior. The smaller the penis to body size, the more bonded males were restricted to activity with only their mate while females would engage in sexual activity with a variety of non-bonded males. Within these groups, females would generally bond with males with smaller penises and engage in sexual activity with better-endowed, non-bonded males.
The most common activity between females and their mates was grooming and eating, with the far greater amount of sexual activity occurring between mated females and males other than their mates. Neither mated nor non-mated females would engage in sexual activity with bonded males who were not their own mates. The most frequent sexual activity of bonded males was masturbation.

This study particularly intrigued me because it’s findings correlated so closely with my own experiences. I have assisted many couples in beginning and maintaining cuckold relationships. Among my patients, husbands with smaller penises were not only more agreeable to being cuckolded, but would even sometimes suggest it. These very enlightened, lesser-endowed, husbands were keenly aware of their inability to satisfy their wives sexually. By accepting their wives engaging in sex with other men they were relieved of the pressure to perform.
It makes sense that this behavior would be present in humans since humans are primates whose difference in size between the sexes is slight and men’s penises are very small when compared to their body mass. Also interesting is that women, like other primate females, will rarely engage in sex with married men. A husband’s wedding band makes for a fairly efficient chastity device.. A wife’s wedding band, however, does little and sometimes even encourages pursuit by men. This further illustrates that the innate human proclivity for cuckold relationships goes genetically even deeper.

Our modern morals and the female/male roles imposed on us by society are not only aberrant behavior given our genetic make up, but psychologically unhealthy and morally unethical. It is unfair that a woman is forced to repress the powerful sex drives that are so genetically imbedded in her psyche. Most married woman simply can’t do it. It is uncountable today how many wives are having sex with other men behind their husband’s back because our society cannot accept a woman’s natural needs.

At what point did we move from a matriarchal to a patriarchal society that perverted our male and female sexual roles? We have so inverted out ideas of human sexuality that we have come to believe that women have a lower sex drive than men when the reverse is true. We think that men should be free to have sex unbridled, when it is women who should be freed and men bridled. We have created a society in which women struggle with guilt and frustration over their natural sexual needs while men are obsessed with perverted sexual deviations from far too great an access to far to great a variety of sexual stimuli and freedom.

Just as our modern lives preventing us from responding to our need to express our flight or fight response leads to stress, and our turning from whole foods to processed foods give us all sorts of physical ailments, our denial of our natural sexual programming leads to untold emotional and behavioral problems. It would startle the average person to learn how many divorces are caused by the inequity of a woman’s unfulfilled sexual needs. In an effort to protect the man from humiliation it is rarely mentioned in polite society that the reason for a couple’s divorce was because the wife was finding sexual satisfaction outside their marriage. If we could be open and honest about a women’s needs, and that it is not the fault of their husbands that they need to fulfill those needs outside their marriages, then maybe we could begin to embrace cuckoldry as a healthy societal norm and save far more marriages..

I have saved many marriages in my practice by gently introducing the idea and practice of cuckoldry to struggling couples. I have seen in my own female patients that once they start to engage in sex outside their marriage with the acceptance of their husbands and the security that their husbands will remain faithful, they become more centered, calm and confident. Similarly, once their husbands get past their jealous feelings and fear of inadequacy they become calmer and more mature, no longer engaging in childish behavior like nights out with the boys or an obsession with sports. They even loose their interest in pornography as their wives recounting of their extramarital exploits, or their participation in those exploits, becomes much more titillating to them than the artificial titillation of pornography.

When my female clients add the uncertainty principle of arousal and denial to their cuckold marriage a woman can bring her husband back to the days when they were first dating. Husbands become more focused on their wives and no longer suffer the frustrating feelings caused by a desire for unattainable women

Cuckold marriages can evolve into a great variety of preferences. In my own practice I have seen cuckold marriages that range from those in which cuckolding wives enjoy subjecting their husband’s to humiliation and punishment, to those in which wives will have sex with other men in front of her husband as a form of entertaining them, to just about everything in between. Most couples in my practice, however, have very loving marriages with playful arousal and denial that seem conventional in every way except that the wife dates while her husband remains faithfully hers.

It is regretful that the cuckold relationships of Victorian times could not have evolved into an open way of life accepted by modern society. It is my hope that one day it will.