October 28, 2014

Cuckold Humanity

The Humanity of the Cuckold Lifestyle

After studying human sexuality for many years it has become inarguable to me that a cuckold relationship (in which the wife engages in sexual activity with a variety of men while her husband remains faithful) is most compatible with basic human evolutionary make up. It is straying from this evolutionary grounded human bonding relationship that has produced such misunderstandings and conflict between the sexes.

At the very base of this principle is the understanding of a woman's psychological need for a variety of sex partner's. Psychologically, women are hardwired differently than men. A woman has a dual sex drive, a male only has one. The first for a female is centered on finding a mate for life to help support her and her offspring. This is why (and when) love is such an important part of a women's sexual desire. The second is a more personal desire in which helps her to obtain confidence with in herself as she grows older or after having children a woman has a need to feel beautiful, wanted and desired and the male in the relationship at this point usually tends to egnor those feelings she is having leaving her vonerable to others pray. This second desire begins to grow once a woman has found her life mate and grows stronger as time with him progresses. Eventually, this later and more powerful drive overpowers her sexual desire for her life mate. This is why a woman's sexual desire for her husband diminishes over time. At the same time her sexual desire for other men is increasing.

Often this desire for other men becomes so strong she cannot deny it. This does not make her immoral or mean that she no longer loves her husband. It is simply part of her genetic code. As a marriage continues this discrepancy in sexual needs increases dramatically, usually to the breaking point of a wife secretly finding a lover or lovers outside the marriage. Compounding this is that nature has not only given women a two prong and exponentially stronger sex drive than men, it has also given women the ability to experience a far greater quantity, intensity, and variety of sexual pleasure and orgasm than men. As a result, women can experience a wide range and intensity of sexual pleasure and diversity of orgasm. Besides the pleasure and orgasms derived from manual, oral and coital stimulation of a woman's clitoris, all three of which feel distinctly different, a woman can reach a completely different sensation of pleasure and a completely different orgasm from the stimulation of her g-spot by a well endowed man. Men, on the other hand, are far simpler sexually.

Stimulate their glans (the little patch of skin at the front of the penis just below it's head) and they ejaculate. Furthermore, men can get nearly the same level of satisfaction from masturbating as the do completing a sex act with a woman. For women, masturbation will give them only temporary relief. Women need to have sex with a partner to be fully satisfied, especially psychologically. The male also has a much simpler sex drive than a woman. He simply wants to mate with any female he finds desirable. The longer he is denied sex, the stronger his desire grows and which he finds a woman much more desirable. Since it is the woman who decides if he will be allowed to have sex with her or not, his desire for her sexually is also linked to the desire for her approval.

Husbands in clinical studies who's desire for their wives have lowered in time and who's interest have turned to other women have been completely turned around when their wives begin using arousal and denial techniques on them. These techniques instill uncertainty in the husband as to whether he will be allowed to complete a sex act with her or not. Time after time, in study after study, these husband's desires have been focused back to their wives exclusively, losing all interest in other women. The wives in these studies were even able to vary their husband's level of interest through increasing or decreasing their application of arousal and denial techniques. It was further found that when these same wives reverted back to traditional sexual practices with their husbands, their husbands began to loose interest again and began to again look at other women as possible sex partners. Interestingly, it was during the sexually repressive Victorian Era (http://elisesutton.homestead.com/articles12.html) that an unusual mix of cuckoldry and the sexual arousal and denial of males was employed. Many males were put in chastity so the female could monitor and control is orgasms, it was thought that if you control a males penis you control him (I think even in today's society we understand that).

Studies show in all cases the male becomes submissive leaving the female a wide range to allow her to do as she pleases, and also shows the male will totally focus on her and only her. A structured practice of female sexual satisfaction and male denial grew quickly. Women had a lot of leisure time and spread the word of the benefits of orgasmic therapy and spousal chastity through the popular women's societies prevalent at the time. Since men could not be trusted to have self-discipline, their wives were usually given the keys to their chastity devices. A kind of secret society developed in which these wives called themselves Key Holders. Key holding wives would deny their husbands sex while they enjoyed sex with other men. This is where cuckold training came into play (http://cuckyboy.com/cuckold/cuckold-training-tips.htm)

It is unfair that a woman is forced to repress the powerful sex drives that are so genetically imbedded in her psyche. Most married woman simply can't do it. It is uncountable today how many wives are having sex with other men behind their husband's back because our society cannot accept a woman's natural needs. This illustrating again how arousal and denial of sex can totally alter a man's behavior so the female does not have to go behind his back and can be open aout it and train her husband to understand female sexuallity. Our modern morals and the female/male roles imposed on us by society are not only aberrant behavior given our genetic make up, but psychologically unhealthy and morally unethical. It is unfair that a woman is forced to repress the powerful sex drives that are so genetically imbedded in her psyche. Most married woman simply can't do it. It is uncountable today how many wives are having sex with other men behind their husband's back because our society cannot accept a woman's natural needs. We have created a society in which women struggle with guilt and frustration over their natural sexual needs while men are obsessed with perverted sexual deviations from far too great an access to far to great a variety of sexual stimuli and freedom. our denial of our natural sexual programming leads to untold emotional and behavioral problems. It would startle the average person to learn how many divorces are caused by the inequity of a woman's unfulfilled sexual needs. In an effort to protect the man from humiliation it is rarely mentioned in polite society that the reason for a couple's divorce was because the wife was finding sexual satisfaction outside their marriage.

If we could be open and honest about a women's needs, and that it is not the fault of their husbands that they need to fulfill those needs outside their marriages, then maybe we could begin to embrace cuckoldry as a healthy societal norm and save far more marriages.. Gently introducing the idea and practice of cuckoldry to struggling couples, studies studies have shown female patients that once they start to engage in sex outside their marriage with the acceptance of their husbands and the security that their husbands will remain faithful, they become more centered, calm and confident making the relationship much more healthy. Using arousal and denial in a cuckold marriage a woman can bring her husband back to the days when they were first dating. Husbands become more focused on their wives and no longer suffer the frustrating feelings caused by a desire for unattainable women, making for a loving and playful marriage. It is regretful that the cuckold relationships of Victorian times could not have evolved into an open way of life accepted by modern society. It is my hope that one day it will... Elise Sutton examines the prevalent male desire to be dominated by a woman. She explores from a psychological perspective why men have submissive desires toward the female gender, where these desires originate from, and how this common male fantasy reflects what is transpiring within society, as women are becoming more liberated and independent. Elise reveals that Female Domination is a large tent with many forms, expressions and lifestyles contained therein.

Elise takes the reader into the personal and intimate lives of forty couples, who are not unlike your family members, the people you work with or the people you socialize with, yet who practice different variations of the Female Domination lifestyle. Some couples like Female Domination to be soft and sensual, some like it hard and rough, some like it wild and trend setting, some like it romantic, some like it untraditional, some like it primarily in the bedroom, and some like it both inside and outside the bedroom. Through the experiences of others, Elise depicts how the Female Domination lifestyle can build a bond of intimacy, defuse arguments, relieve stress, transport sex to a higher level than just the physical, empower women in society, and inject excitement into the mundane tasks of life such as household chores. Elise portrays how Female Domination can satisfy the inner male child, build up a woman's self-esteem, add spice to the bedroom, re-ignite romance, and cause a power exchange within the female/male relationship. Elise Sutton examines how society is evolving toward Female rule, one relationship at a time.

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